Hey what is this happening? I am crying here and the rest of the people...smiling? Laughing?? Shaking hands??? Congratulating each other???? Sounds so ridiculous na! Naaaa, it should not; it is the time when I took birth in this world. Here, I haven't used "I" for myself only. I have used it for the millions and trillions of people breathing in this world. Also don’t consider me a misogamist since I have talked here about the boys’ lives much but the reason is, being a boy I can’t judge the lifestyle of girls completely and hence to write or comment about their lives would might have made injustice with them.
What birth of a child should mean? Someone will say it is a new life arrives to this world, others may say that it is a prologue of a new story. I say that a birth is nothing else but the first day of being appointed on the post of a human being in the biggest organization named as Universe that is controlled by none other than the most famous God.
By giving a lot of pain to a mother, by giving so much stress to a doctor, by making a lot of people hoping and waiting out there when a child takes birth in this world; all that pain, that stress and that wait arrives to an end and that hope comes into the hands in the form of a child. So much of happiness, so much of joy, so much of satisfaction and yes of course so many expectations are getting chained with that new life. That child tries to figure out the scene created around and expresses his feelings by sings and voices. Someone will call him sweetu, someone will call guddu then the other side someone is calling him raja beta...ohh so many pet names will come to your ear even when there is not an actual name given to that child. Why all these things are happening? Why the people celebrate his birth? Why??? Because that child mean something very special for all of them. Some consider him to be the one who has completed their dreams, some may think of him to be the one who has completed their lives, some may take him as the one who will give them glory and pride and the rest may treat him to be the one who will keep their inheritance and virtues alive. Birth - a simple scientific process takes so many other forms with or without knowing and affects so many other lives together.
Now, that child is to be taken care. The way how we nourish a plant, more than even that, a child is to be fed up not only with food but also with so many good virtues and the knowledge about the things surrounding him. If we come to these things then they can vary from an air conditioner to a begrime slum. The things that child has to face in his life, he should be the master of that this is what the need of today's world. So, a child may learn that how to beg for a rupee and he may need to learn that how to navigate through the maps from his cell phones. Everything depends upon the destiny of a human being. In short the nature of work the boss almighty would like to assign to him.
The child gradually becomes younger and learns the lessions of his life. One may be studying in a convent school then the other side one may learn some new slangs to be given to the people who may come to bite a piece of his land to make a road bit broader. Lives are different and hence the lessions are also different...! Wait a minute... have we forgotten someone??? What about a child who is suffering from a blood cancer? and the one who is having both of his legs affected by polio? or the one who has not been grown normally by brain, or... the last but not the least the one who may be suffering from dyslexia or progeria which a normal person also wants to see only on the screen of a multiplex for his enjoyment by paying a handsome amount for tickets and snacks. Again, these are some possibilities we are discussing when he has not kept his legs even on the verge of youthness.
Ok then... here comes the youth. It is generally said that one gets sense at the age of 12, intelligence and appearance at the age of 16 and complexion at the age of 20. But today it is generally observed that a young boy does not wait for these stages of age. They want to walk before the time. Want to learn something before its invention. And yaaaaa want to look cute, dashing and handsome all the time; no need to say why...! But God has his own funda. He says that nobody gets something in his life before the time and beyond his destiny. Now the race between the human mentality and God funda creates so many disturbances in human life. Because boss is always right. He says that do the job and rest keep it upon me. Ultimately I have given you the job of a human being and hence I will decide that how much I should pay you and when you will deserve the bonus or fine. And meanwhile if you still won't change your attitude then I will terminate you from this organization of world.
Leave all these things aside. Let’s talk about the youth. Spicy, salty, crispy, sweet, bitter; these are some tastes of youth. A period of life with full of vision, full of confidence, full of hardworking, full of determination and full of josh. A person feels that he is flying in an open sky. The naughtiness of teenage, the dreams of college life, the fear of exams, and the wishes to become successful in all the ways are some of the very natural and common feelings people used to feel about their young lives. Some may also utilize the resources they have in studying, researching and making nice relationships. Some may want to enjoy youth by eating, sleeping, outing, travelling, shopping and much more than the other side a young man may be struggling for fulfilling the demands of his family whose the only responsible person is he himself. He may not come to know that when the youth has come and when it has passed away. Time makes him elder day by day and with no loving memories of youth, he passes his age of enjoying those golden days.
Now you will definitely think that I wrote much about youth but forgot the most charming feeling of the same. Ok ok I come to that point also. A young person who may not be believing in God also keeps in mind at least one sentence ottured by the great boss almighty; that is, "Love All Mankind." Here, the meaning of love according to God may be different but who cares? The magical word love has come in-between na? Bassssss... people start shivering, dreaming, making unrecognizable voices and bla bla bla. Ya these are some side effects of the word love. If it is asked to a group of people that what is love, a scientist may say that it is the process takes birth in two living bodies as the result of some chemical conjunction, a collegian will say that chhodo ye chemical locha; love is the most beautiful feeling of mankind. Somewhat matured and spiritual person may say that love is a divine blessing of almighty which keeps the lives living for each other and together. And at the last, you may get the answer, "Love isssss...." and only a beautiful smile or two twinkling tears in eyes, full stop. At the other side, you may also find some people cursing love and saying that love is waste of time, it just hurts the hearts, it ruins the lives and much more. What to believe and what not to? So, in short love is a feeling which takes birth in heart, comes out as care, uses brain to see the dreams and to make them succeeded and giving a feel of heaven on getting acknowledged. This was bit sophisticated... now look at this. Love is...dil me dhadka, fizul me bhadka, jeb ho kadka to credit card pe sarka, khud ko maarta, dusaro pe marta, sabse ladta aur takdir ka tadka.
Enough...got so many meanings of love. Let’s see what God says and what we understood about it. When God sends a person upon the earth, he says to him that love everybody in your life and people will love you. The man gives an affirmative sign, smiles and starts his journey to earth. He forgets to ask to God that boss what if I don't get it in return. God also takes a breath of rest on not getting asked this question because it confuses this big boss even. Let it be... now after entering into the age of youth and some maturity, one may feel something like love for someone. He tries to figure out that really it is love? Meanwhile a day when that girl just gives a smile and he confirms his feelings to be of love only. Then gradually one more prefix gets attached with love and that is True Love which simply justifies his feelings and makes it different from attraction where people do like someone but does not love. Ok... day by day he tries to have healthy conversations with that girl and finally the day comes when he proposes with a great courage and a blushing face. If the girl accepts and promises to give it back, there would be an endless happiness takes place at that spot and a long journey of love begins from that station. Now what if there was nothing like such feeling of love in the heart of that girl. A very nice quote is present here, "Fact of life: More often, we fall in love with a person we can never live with; and sometimes the one we truly love, remains either a friend or a stranger...!" Now either of these two situations may occur or it may also possible that they occur one after another. First decides to remain friends and then... behaves worse than a stranger. Now if he is matured enough and if he really had true love with her, this will definitely going to hurt him a lot. He feels like he has worshiped in rain and but then showered by flame. He may find each day to be the end of his life even. Now as this is life and has to live it with so many other responsibilities. So, he will have to keep all these things at the darkest corner of the heart.
At the other side, some may divide love in first love, second love and so on. When changing the state from first to second, the previous one becomes crush and later on this crush gets converted into crushes. Sounds like a mathematical equation or a scientific law na? The people with such mentality truely kills the meaning of love. God had given the general meaning of love as, "Love is a feeling which must be present between every mankind for each other to survive in this world peacefully." Today people imagines love to be between two persons having opposite sex only. But love can be there between child and their parents, husband and wife, brother and sister, a human to an animal and a stranger to another stranger because after all he is also a part of this world.
Let him become elder now. Keep travelling, keep saving money, keep parents happy and secured, keep bagging bricks for his home, keep struggling for his job, etc. When one would be busy in performing so many of these duties, one more is going to be loaded upon him which he may also feel good to bear in the initial years probably... yes the marriage. The ceremony which binds a normal boy with a normal girl together for behaving abnormally for the rest of the life with an expectation that they will be living with enough amount of mutual understanding between themselves and will feel relaxed on getting the things and responsibilities shared. Now it depends that after marriage, whether the responsibilities are getting shared or new responsibilities are going to engage him; like to take her on drive, for a movie, keep her pleased with new sets of cosmetics and the list goes on. Some husbands with over mutual understanding may have to prepare breakfast, need to wash clothes and dishes, iron your shirts as well as her sarees, prepare the lunch and take her for the dinner in a hotel... ohh it’s so freaky. But after doing all these things, when he receive a sweet smile from her, when he feel her hands gently kept upon his head, when he feel her face resting upon his shoulder and when he listen to her sweet voice welcoming him when he is back to home... all the pain of the previously said activities gets relieved and he still feels life much much better. Because moral support also plays a great role in the life and the same one will be getting in a huge amount after getting married. Again marriage happened with really a understanding, caring, loving and responsible partner who has some leading virtues like patience, sacrificing, satisfaction in less, respect to elders and love to children; actually makes the life complete and gives a great support in future.
But beware or be prepared before taking blessings of elders along with wife. Because, the most famous blessings can be of taking a new little life in your existing. A person may just think of it at that time but when the pressure and force increases you may have to make yourself ready for becoming a daddy of a sweet handsome boy or of a charming and beautiful girl. It is also one of the incredible feelings in the life to become a father and mother. He has already given this happiness to his parents before few decades and the same he is going to achieve shortly. After becoming a father, a journey towards becoming a responsible and loving father commences and that lets him feel all those things which he made his father to feel. May be some joy, some stress, some pain, some insult, some planning, some arrangements... and in return he is going to gain almost the same from his child what he has given to his parents. It can be a lot of happiness and satisfaction or it can also be the heavy amount of killing activities.
Now he has to see his child to grow properly, his wife to remain pleased, and his parents to remain safe, secured and happy and from all these things, he finds some instalments of happiness for himself too. But it is said that good time or the worst time, never remain forever. Some may lose their parents, some may lose their wives, some may lose their children, some may lose themselves and many other uncountable pains are lying in the way towards the end of life. Meanwhile, if the boss - almighty has the scares of resources and thinks of some recession in his organization named as universe, he may bring some natural calamities like flood, earthquakes, volcano blasts, tornados or he may order some lover level HR managers named as terrorists to burn out and kill the people in a huge amount. God may also have some other techniques called accidents who may kill you completely or incompletely where you beg to make it complete.
If he is a survivor satisfying the "Survival Rules" book of God, he may let him live for some more years but that would also be a mixture of some fun in a bowl with a hot chatni of pain poured upon it. Being old, remaining ill, looking to the same life cycle of God with a few changes in it according to the changing behaviour of people and finally catching the bed of death.
Looking to the whole itinerary of life, sometimes I feel... though it is said that a birth in human community is only achieved by your great deeds and a lot of blessings of God; but why it slowly but gradually tends to worse and the worst. Is that our own deeds make it so, or it has to be happened whether you act somewhat wrong or not. Again acting somewhat wrong also happens with the desire of the final authority almighty. Wherever there is a fun, shortly there would be the pain too. May be that fun was also achieved after suffering from a lot of pain. Those who consider life as a heaven, they actually want to remain in a world called virtual reality. Like one don't want to get awaken while looking to a very sweet dream but he does not have an idea that a hungry lion is staring to him and planning how and when to jump upon him. Today. people want to remain busy with the online games like virtual world or also want to engage themselves in orkut, facebook or twitter. Why do they want to play such games like virtual world though they are living in the real one? Why do they want to grow their network using such social networking sites? The reason is they actually feel unsecured. They want those dreams to be completed virtually which they will not be able to complete in this real world. Then why some people may find this life as heaven? Do they really feel so? If they do then where is others' fault that they can't think so? For them, there is nothing like achieving a heaven but it is always like living in a dark room where what is placed next to you can't be visualized. Though a sofa set, a dining table, a television, an air conditioner, a mixture grinder, a washing machine and something more is kept inside your home but you can't use them due to darkness in the house; they will act only as the hurdles that come in between your ways to cross that home and gives you pain at every step of yours which makes you feel that the life is a Well Furnished Hell.
